It’s the ducks!

We’re all a bunch of phonies. As Holden Caulfield might say.

It’s about this time of year that I re-read my favorite book, Catcher in the Rye, by J.D. Salinger.

I can’t really tell you why it’s my favorite. Maybe it’s my copy of the book, which is older than me and the print looks like it’s been stamped on. Its spine is all cracked and the pages have turned a bit golden. The book is kind of about nothing, but then everything at the same time. If you’ve read it, you know what I mean, and for some reason I’m compelled to pick it up every year.

I think it’s because of Holden, the main character. I like the way he talks. He’s real, you know? Like he sees things as they are. No bullshit. Just people, life, and ducks— A conversation about ducks I think is the most interesting thing in the book. And I’ll let you in on something, it’s not that interesting. Like at all. BUT. It makes you think. About, ducks. About, why ducks? And then, usually, the next thought you have is something profound. It’s weird. It’s a weird book. Real though.

And let’s be real, people need to be more real. I see it everywhere all the time—people putting on faces that aren’t theirs. Cover ups that aren’t covering up shit, only making it more obvious. Say what you mean. Mean what you say. Know what you’re saying. Original thought is often easily misplaced when having a conversation. We react how we think we should too often rather than how we really feel. We reply with “I’m good,” when asked how we are because, well hell, what else are we going to say? This is us. Phonies. Because we are never just “good.”

So, learn something from Holden. Go find out where the ducks go during the wintertime, maybe.

 

 

 

 

What Color Are You?

Having trouble figuring people out? Do you get frustrated, and get confused why some people just do not see things the way you do? Well guess what? We all have had this issue. Whether it be for professional uses, or personal, I am going to help you figure out how to help people see things the way you do. You will want to write this down.

To communicate with people you need to understand what type of person they are. People are segmented into four different colors. Each color has distinct characteristics and personalities.  Now bear with me. I am going to exaggerate a bit so it will be easier for you to remember each color characteristic. Each color has good and bad parts, so please don’t get offended by these exaggerations.

Yellow

These people love to help. These people live to help. They are the caring, easy going people. Yellow people are the ones who are right away giving you a hug, and asking if you need anything to make you more comfortable. Yellows are not going to be overly concerned with money. They will actually feel offended if you continue talking about money, and how great it can be for them. They will not go out of their way to make a lot of money for themselves unless it’s for a greater good. Yellows strive to HELP others. 

Blue

These people love to partyBlues are always looking for fun. They easily look past things in order to obtain an adventure, experience, or opportunity. Blues are people persons. They love any chance they can get to meet new people. Blues are very outgoing and meet lots and lots of people. Often, these are the people who talk non stop, and don’t listen to what others are saying. Blues are constantly looking for excitement, and love to travel.

Red

These people need to feel like they are in charge. They need, and strive, to be the boss. Reds are very focused people. Money and success are very important to them. Reds are organized, and know what they are doing. They always have the right answer to everything. These are the people who will take charge in a situation, and present themselves as leaders.

Green

These people are the thinkers. Greens tend to live boring lives. They are socially challenged, and try to avoid people at all costs. They love information and facts. Greens have to convince themselves about things. You are going to have to be very patient with greens because they want to learn everything about everything. Greens come off as having little to no personality. 


As you can see, each of these colors have good and bad sides. Yellows are caring, but are soft spoken. Blues make great loud leaders, but don’t pay attention to detail. Reds know where they are going in life, but have too much pride. Greens are intelligent thinkers, but lack social skills.

Identifying what color people are can be a huge benefit to your communications. Especially if you want them to see something you see. 

You don’t have to act like colors that you aren’t, but you should learn how to talk like them so you can communicate successfully with different people.

It’s OK if people are more than one color. Sometimes, people are dominantly one color, and have aspects of other colors. Utilize the information you collect about people. Study people to understand how to communicate with them.

WHAT COLOR ARE YOU?

Personality Color Chart